When Quentin and Shreve discuss the story of Sutpen’s Hundred, there are few concrete pieces of evidence to which they can reference. Among these pieces of evidence are the five marble tombstones that Quentin sees when he visits the site with his father. The first two gravestones are for Sutpen and Ellen. Mr. Compson tells Quentin the story of Sutpen purchasing the stones:
He ordered them from Italy, the best, the finest to be had – his wife’s complete and his with the date left blank: and this while on active service which had not only the highest mortality rate of any service before or since but which had a custom of electing a new set of regimental officers each year […] so that for all he knew, before his order could be filled or even received he might already be under ground and his grave marked (if at all) by a shattered musket thrust into the earth […] (155).
There is certainly something performative about Sutpen’s decision to buy these gravestones after his wife’s death. He goes out of his way to order the “finest” Italian marble money can buy, and buys a matching set for the two of them, even though he knows he was more than likely to die on the battlefield and never wind up being buried next to Ellen. Buying the gaudy stones as a matching set adds an air of posthumous legitimacy to the marriage, showing that he intends to rest with her in death, but Quentin notices that Ellen’s gravestone merely says “Ellen Coldfield Sutpen” along with her dates of birth and death – no “beloved wife of.” The absence of this phrase immediately stands out to Quentin. Sutpen is willing to buy his late wife a beautiful marble headstone (and a matching one for himself, which he may or may not ever use), but he declines to engrave her stone with any sort of declaration of his love for her.
Judith follows in her father’s footsteps, buying three more expensive gravestones. The first of these is for Charles Bon, to whom Judith was engaged, but whom the narrators continuously emphasize she never grieved. This one cannot say “beloved husband of” since the two were never married, and Quentin wonders if she would have wanted to add that phrase onto Charles’s gravestone. When discussing Judith’s purchase of the additional gravestones, Mr. Compson says:
They lead beautiful lives – women. Lives not only divorced from, but irrevocably excommunicated from, all reality. That’s why although their deaths, the instant of dissolution, are of no importance to them since they have a courage and fortitude in the face of pain and annihilation which would make the most spartan man resemble a puling boy, yet to them their funerals and graves, the little puny affirmations of spurious immortality set above their slumber, are of incalculable importance (156).
Mr. Compson frames women’s deaths as something frivolous in comparison to men’s. Women are so far removed from reality, he says, that they are indifferent to the threat of death’s eternal oblivion. However, funerals and graves – the markers of their lives that other people will see – are of “incalculable importance” to them. Faulkner really emphasizes Mr. Compson’s disdain for these markers, having him redundantly call them both “little” and “puny” in the same sentence. However, the frivolity of gravestones is of course not exclusive to women, as we have just seen Sutpen purchase arguably the most extravagant gravestones imaginable. Perhaps Sutpen evades such description because he is actively fighting in the war, thereby putting himself in a position to die a valorous battlefield death.
Mr. Compson’s narrative goes on to speculate on how the scene with the gravestones must have been like a garden scene written by Oscar Wilde, with scene shifters coming in at twilight to “strike [the gravestones] and carry them, hollow fragile and without weight, back to the warehouse until they should be needed again; the pageant, the scene, the act, entering upon the stage” (157). The performative nature is at its most blatant here, with Mr. Compson imagining the scene as a literal performance, and the gravestones as hollow props that are taken away at night. It is notable that, of all the pastoral poets who write garden scenes, Wilde is the one who is likened to this imagined performance. Famously a queer man, Wilde did not adhere to traditional heteronormative ideals of masculinity. It is no surprise, then, that he is grouped in with the feminine performance that Mr. Compson extracts from the gravestones Judith purchased.
The discussion of the gravestones ends here, but part of Quentin and Shreve’s conversation about Charles Bon’s mother seems to allude back to it. Shreve says:
[…] [T]he old Sabine, who couldn’t to save her life have told you or the lawyer or Bon or anybody else probably what she wanted, expected, hoped for because she was a woman and didn’t need to want or hope or expect anything, but just to want and expect and hope […] the old Sabine (not so old yet, but she would have just let herself go in the sense that you keep the engines clean and oiled and the best of coal in the bunkers but you don’t bother to shine the brightwork or holystone the decks anymore; just let herself go on the outside (243).
This passage echoes Mr. Compson’s speech about women living beautiful, simple lives. Shreve likens Bon’s mother’s womanhood to a sort of simplicity in life, saying that she doesn’t have to do anything but want, expect, and hope – all passive actions. He then describes her “letting herself go” as her failure to keep the outside of her home shiny and clean. Though no gravestones are mentioned here, it is not a stretch to think of polishing any potential gravestones when Shreve talks about shining the brightwork and holystoning the decks, since this would be part of the home’s exterior.
The performance of external appearances is consistently likened to femininity, even in death, in the men’s narratives throughout Absalom, Absalom!. The gendering of death and its markers is fascinating, and the contrast between the characters’ perceptions of the gravestones purchased by Sutpen and those purchased by Judith offers a vivid window into the gender dynamics that made up these characters’ world.

